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Stop "Fixing" for a Better World

In the world of human form, where we "live" most of the time, there is a continual nonstop distinction of good and bad, right and wrong.

  • The kind person is good
  • The rude person is bad
  • The action of reducing suffering for others is right
  • The action of killing is wrong


We make a judgement on every single thing we see and do, not just the big or more obvious choices above. And when we make those judgements we are sure we are right.


And so, with our innocent desire to feel more worthy ourselves, we strive to be more of the good and less of the bad. We strive to do more of the right and less of the wrong. And we expect others to do the same.


But the world of form is constantly changing, and our perceptions can change as well. Each situation becomes more good or less good, more wrong or less wrong, based on the new information we hear about it, or the new ways we think about it, or the change in the actual situation itself.

  • It becomes bad to be kind when we feel we are being taken advantage of
  • It becomes good to be rude when we need to defend ourselves or show others how wrong they are instead
  • It becomes wrong to reduce suffering, when doing so with ulterior questionable motives
  • It becomes right to kill when we are protecting ourselves


And all of this change never stops, and the changing perceptions never stop either, besides the fact that every situation can be viewed from an infinite number of perspectives.


And the interesting thing is that when we try to live a "black and white" existence in an essentially "shades of grey" world, we naturally tend to cause more harm. We constantly try to fix what we see as bad and wrong, and when we can't fix it, we spend time trying to justify, reason, and defend our perspective. That takes an awful lot of energy, and takes us in a direction that is away from our natural state of unconditional love.


In the world of the "formless" (with no judgement, with unconditional love) everything is neutral, everything "just is what it is". We see the world much bigger than the tiny little finite neighbourhood that usually exists between our ears. We see the act of being kind or the act of being rude as more than just good or bad. We see the act of reducing suffering or the act of killing as more than just right or wrong.


We realize we are all just human... miraculously perfect imperfect human beings, doing the best we can in each moment. We see ourselves and others as what we truly are at our core. And so we realize we've got nothing to try to fix, nothing to try to change.


And in that understanding, we more naturally and frequently stop fixing what was previously judged to be broken and we begin to act with and from love. And with nothing except love, we become more kind, we become less rude, we become more motivated to reduce suffering for ALL, and we become less motivated to kill. And these actions come naturally, and effortlessly without having to painfully and urgently work, and try, and strive, and demand, and justify, and reason, and defend. Instead, we just do what we are... pure and unconditional love.


It seems so simple, but is ultimately impossible as long as we continue to "judge and fix" ourselves and others. Fortunately, with an understanding of the principles of our human nature and human experience, we can see through the illusion of our judgmental thought, we can see how our bad feelings are just giving us a heads up on what we're seeing in the moment, how consciously aware we are of our potentially limited view, and we can ultimately tip the scales more toward love, more toward our true nature, and access the infinite creative capacity of a much kinder source.


And by the way, could you be so kind as to remind me of this, the next time I think someone is being rude, or whatever other judgement I am proclaiming?

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05.09 | 16:09

Lovely to hear from you Sharon! And thank you for the question. This website has limited space for comments, so I hopefully it's OK to send you an email. 😊

05.09 | 05:52

Hi Jonelle, just started reading this site-thank you so much. I have a question I hope you can answer for me: are emotions & feelings the same thing?

07.08 | 12:02

How beautiful. Your friend is so lucky to have you. ❤️

07.08 | 12:00

Thank you Andie! Would be lovely to catch up! ❤️

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