As a corporate trainer for 17+ years, I would often be dismayed at the number of participants who would leave training with a positive view of the course, but would rarely put all the skills into practice back on the job (including myself).
I would often talk about this phenomenon at the beginning of a course... "Do you find that you usually learn new things in training, but rarely put them into action? Do you more often than not, stuff the workbook somewhere in your desk drawer, rarely
to be seen or considered again?" The class usually unanimously agrees.
When I ask them why, I often get answers like the following:
- It gets too busy when I get back to the office
- I just forget
- I don't have anything or anyone reminding me
- You can't teach an old dog new tricks
- It's easier to keep doing things the same way I've always done them
- I'm just not disciplined enough
I would then open a discussion about how to combat this issue so that they would increase their chances of getting more value out of their time away from the office.
The interesting thing however, in light of the Principles
understanding, is that I now know exactly why the new skills don't get applied.
The simple truth is that the skills were never really learned. There is a commonly misunderstood "trick of the mind" that lets us think we know something,
when we really don't. Intellectual understanding by itself NEVER translates to behaviour change, despite our expectations and beliefs otherwise. There is ALWAYS a requirement for "personal insight", or an "ah hah" moment, or some level of paradigm shift...
thinking AND feeling something in a completely new way.
Change happens ONLY when we learn something both intellectually AND in the depths of our soul, so that the idea for change is no longer just a "good idea when I get a chance to try
it out", but becomes something more obvious, and natural, and just common sense to do.
You know it's funny. After my awakening to the Principles, I would often find it perplexing and amusing that "the complete and total illusion of our
thought created reality" appeared to most others as nothing more ground breaking than the description of my latest vacation. They may have "known" what I was trying to explain, but they didn't "KNOW". And how interesting that this KNOWING requirement not only
applies to learning the Principles, but ultimately to everything we learn in life.