3P Random Reflections Blog

Feelings Coming from Me and Not From Them

Passport photos and driver's licence photos are always just the worst, aren't they?

 

I just came across all my old passports, and while being amused at the changing hairstyles, remembered that one of my old bosses didn't particularly like my hair (the 1986 photo), and brought me into her office one day to tell me to change it. I remember feeling shocked and embarrassed and uncomfortable, but I didn't really know what to do, so I just brushed it off and never did end up changing it.

 

And then it reminded me of a boss I had a few years before who was a bit of a male chauvenist at times, and after giving my notice to take another job, he took me down into the basement of the building to have a private chat where he asked me if the reason I was leaving was because I hated men. And again, I remember feeling shock and embarassment and discomfort.

 

I wasn't that fond of either of these managers, and even though I could have validated those feelings with my colleagues who had similiar feelings, it's interesting to reflect on how my dislike of these managers would have helped to create the situations that I ran into. How would these relationships have been different, knowing what I know now, that my feelings were coming from me, and not from them?

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10.06 | 11:27

You're so welcome Karen! My first 3P insight was that because we're all living in the illusion of our made up thinking, we're all crazy and don't know it!

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10.06 | 11:11

You are so darn funny!!! I was pointed to this site when I googled 3P school and it addressed if you should wear a 3P's suit! Thanks for sharing so much humour!

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12.04 | 22:44

Catch up... sounds good. Would love to hear how things are going. 😊

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12.04 | 22:34

Hey there, welcome back! Let's touch base soon. I had a virtual ticket to the conference. Have only just been able to start watching the clips. Way, way cool! Reminds me of our walk over to the chicken place. LOL

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