Throughout my life I could never make sense out of people's behaviours, including my own.
The truth that every single person is living, moment to moment, in the effects of their up and down flow of secure and insecure thought.
any of us are feeling secure, we see the world from a kinder perspective, and we tend to act out in kind. Whenever any of us are feeling insecure, we see the world from a negative perspective, and we tend to act out from the belief in it.
There isn't one single person who is immune from this.
And although we often seem to want to stamp a permanent label on others (or even ourselves) to identify them as lazy, or stupid, or egotistical, or rude, or thoughtless, or even
the opposites of productive, or smart, or humble, or kind, or thoughtful, or "whatever", there is not one single one of us who IS or can be any one permanent thing. With the continually flowing, up and down nature of the energy of thought, it's impossible.
What we are (the solid, unchangeable, unbreakable part of every one of us) has absolutely nothing to do with our changing behaviours in each moment, but instead is the invisible something of which we are all within and to which we are all
connected... something that can't really be seen or even understood, but can be sensed or felt or realized.
Ultimately, we're all in this together, and are connected in more ways than we can even begin to comprehend, and we are ALL subject
to the up and down nature of thought. And in every moment when we somehow remember this or recognize this, whether about ourselves or others, we (me, you, or them) get to navigate life with much less need to assign permanent labels, and much more appreciation
for the incredible diversity of our common humanity.