3P Random Reflections Blog

To Buy or Not To Buy

It's crazy, isn't it?


In our consumer society, we are so distanced and disconnected from the origin and production/processing and delivery of the products and services we buy, that we don't have any inkling of the upstream and downstream effects (including the potential damage) of each purchase we make... with each effect then rippling out in an infinite number of directions.


We see something that looks useful to us, and buy it... and whatever we can't see or experience or don't know about, never crosses our minds, as we simply move onto the next mostly unconscious purchase.


And since there is sooooooooo much shiny product that is sooooooooo easily purchased, and since the whole of our society is continually buying (including me), we rarely question the insanity of it all... it's just more more more for me me me without any awareness of what we're doing, why we're doing it, or what is the impact.


And trying to figure out the potential effects of any one purchased product could be overwhelming with all the information (and conflicting information) available... let alone considering all of that for every single thing we consume. And I haven't even touched on all the mostly hidden personal beliefs and perceptions and insecure thoughts that unknowingly skew my views on what and how much I buy.


Instead, lately I've just been reflecting on this simple idea whenever it occurs to me...


"If I truly loved and felt connected to everyone and everything, would I buy this product, or this service, or this (fill in the blank here)?"


Sometimes I say no and don't buy it. Sometimes I do a little research on it before purchasing. Sometimes I consider looking for a more "loving" option (upcycled, recycled, repurposed, borrowed, shared, traded, eco-friendlier, alternate solution, smaller, less, etc.). Sometimes I still buy it.


And whatever the answer, I neither laud any choice as right (I'm good) nor suffer any choice as wrong (I'm bad)... I've realized enough over the last few years not to get lost in either version of my insecure thought. For me, it's mostly just a growing mindfulness in what and why I buy, and my place within this incredibly complex, interconnected world.


Right now, in truth, I'm still mostly a little turtle caught in the river rapids of consumerism. But this question is appearing in my mind more often, and having some influence on my less mindful purchasing habits.


For me, at least it's a start.


And, it naturally leads into asking, "If I truly loved and felt connected to everyone and everything (including my sense of self), would I be doing what I'm doing right now?"


Hmmmmm... I wonder?

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05.09 | 16:09

Lovely to hear from you Sharon! And thank you for the question. This website has limited space for comments, so I hopefully it's OK to send you an email. 😊

05.09 | 05:52

Hi Jonelle, just started reading this site-thank you so much. I have a question I hope you can answer for me: are emotions & feelings the same thing?

07.08 | 12:02

How beautiful. Your friend is so lucky to have you. ❤️

07.08 | 12:00

Thank you Andie! Would be lovely to catch up! ❤️

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