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I have lived a life full of many perceived regrets: avoiding discomfort, not facing fears, not taking chances. Fortunately, when I came across the understanding of the Principles and got knocked upside the head with the illusion of all thought, I realized that all those regrets were made up. And now, much of the time, I can see them simply as choices made (or not made), actions that didn't happen, or simply different actions that happened instead; nothing more, and nothing less. Regret was simply a meaning I had made out of some "non-experiences" at the time, and continued to label, each time they were re-remembered.


But I saw something a little deeper today.


What if I had done every single thing that was previously considered as a regret for not doing? What if throughout my life, I had embraced every discomfort, faced every fear, and taken every single chance? How would that make me any different than who I am today, at the very core of my soul?


The answer is, that it wouldn't. I would still feel like "Jonelle", the same very familiar person who has been along on the ride with me through every second of my experience of life. I would still feel like the the "Jonelle" who is sitting here with me on my couch writing this note.


It's likely that from the perceived perspective of "doing", or daring to achieve the impossible, I might have had a few more interesting stories to remember and tell. I might have had a wider net of experiences and people to know. But, whatever I had done, it wouldn't have made me any less or any more than who I already am, who I was when I was born, and who I will be when I die.


Underneath all my experiences (and non-experiences) of life, I am just the very familiar-to-me, "me". And for today at least, that happens to be wonderfully comforting.


Perhaps you can politely remind me of this, when I forget it all again tomorrow. 😊

Steve 28.06.2015 17:48

I think this is a lovely 'seeing', a lovely insight into the truth of who "Jonelle" is. And I can only imagine how comforting it feels to you, Jonelle! Thanks

Jonelle 28.06.2015 22:55

Thanks Steve! :)

Bob Hughes 28.06.2015 04:45

Syd Banks would say, keep it simple. Editing with that in mind might enhance your understanding.

Jonelle 28.06.2015 05:25

Thanks Bob. This for me wasn't anything that complicated, but just another way that occurred to me for how my thoughts are not who I am.

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01.10 | 19:31

I am so glad to hear Sara! So kind of you to let me know! On the website menu to the left is also a "Procrastination" page which has some insights on the topic.

30.09 | 22:08

I found your blog post after googling "procrastination and the three principles". I'm new to this understanding and your very clear explanation helped. ☺️

13.12 | 04:29

Thank you Lars! So happy to hear from you, and glad you enjoyed the reading! I hope to continue writing and sharing whenever inspired. 😊

12.12 | 20:30

Hi Jonelle
Just stumbled across your website, love reading all your insights.
Hope you keep sharing. Thanks from Lars (all the way from Denmark