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I am a HORRIBLE life coach... I sincerely don't want anyone to be more successful. I don't want them to get a new job. I don't want them to lose weight. I don't want them to stop hoarding. I don't want them to become more empowered or creative. I don't want them to inspire and serve others. I don't want them to make more money. I don't want them to write a book. I don't want them to achieve any goals. I don't want them to eat healthier. I don't want them to exercise more. I don't want them to stop gambling, or spend less money, or drink less, or quit smoking, or stop "shoulding", or become less depressed, or be less anxious, or lose their regrets, or overcome their fears, or find the love of their life, or stop yelling at their kids, or fix their relationships. I don't want anyone changing anything about themselves, or others, or their lives.



I only and simply want them to SEE...



I want them to see much more than the limited world they're innocently and unknowingly seeing right now.


I want them to see how every single idea, assumption, belief, perspective, judgment, comparison, feeling, and thought they have in EVERY single moment is COMPLETELY made up... not right, not wrong, not true, not untrue, not good, not bad... just ONE of an INFINITE potential number of different and inherently changing up and down perspectives, innocently and unknowingly believed as real.


I want them to see that underneath all the naturally made up experiences of human thought, is...

  • something incredibly complex and incredibly simple
  • something incredibly spectacular and incredibly ordinary
  • something incredibly expansive-universal and incredibly singular-personal
  • something completely separate from our thinking and yet completely of our thinking
  • something that is always available to be seen and felt but is perplexingly invisible until we happen to notice it or "remember it" for the first time
  • something that actually can't really be "seen" but can be felt or realized or understood
  • something that is already seen, but for which the meaning and significance is mostly unrealized
  • and something that once seen, keeps getting forgotten and remembered, seen and unseen, felt and un-felt, over and over again


But once seen, even with just a sliver of awareness, it begins to open up the door from a previously unrealized prison of limited views and options, and begins the realization that there is always something "other" to be seen than what we are currently seeing, and that there can be profound appreciation for just simply "seeing".



So then, how does one SEE?



Well, don't look at me! After all, I'm already a HORRIBLE life coach. The only thing I usually think I've got is what I think I've seen. And I can't even explain that, even though I hilariously and amusingly keep trying.



The most truthful thing I can say is that there's much more to my experience of my life than I think I know. And that everything I know is not really true. And that every time I'm sure of anything, the less I get to see. And the more I somehow close my eyes to what I think I know, the more I get to see.



Oh yah, and when and how anyone else eventually SEEs, they'll know what to do (or not do) for themselves, and they'll realize that they know mostly nothing too! Isn't that just crazy?



And hey, please don't take any of my HORRIBLE explanation and advice on this. Instead just go see for yourself. 😉

Joe Ragland 28.03.2017 00:15

❤️ This is so good, so true. Thank you!

Jonelle 28.03.2017 15:37


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01.10 | 19:31

I am so glad to hear Sara! So kind of you to let me know! On the website menu to the left is also a "Procrastination" page which has some insights on the topic.

30.09 | 22:08

I found your blog post after googling "procrastination and the three principles". I'm new to this understanding and your very clear explanation helped. ☺️

13.12 | 04:29

Thank you Lars! So happy to hear from you, and glad you enjoyed the reading! I hope to continue writing and sharing whenever inspired. 😊

12.12 | 20:30

Hi Jonelle
Just stumbled across your website, love reading all your insights.
Hope you keep sharing. Thanks from Lars (all the way from Denmark