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It's interesting that when we give a gift to others it often (not always) comes with expectations... We want them to like it, to appreciate it, to use it the way we think it should be used, and perhaps less obvious to ourselves, we want them to appreciate US for giving it to them. We give with conditions.


In these "giving with conditions" moments, it's as if we have a perception of lack, where we can't just give something without needing to get something in return. We appear to empty our cup and therefore need to fill it back up.


But what if we lived with the perception of abundance instead?


What if we could truly see and feel that our cup was actually ALWAYS overflowing, and that the act of giving required absolutely nothing in return because there was no empty cup to fill back up? What if we simply gave whenever we were inspired by our moments of fullness, of completeness, of wholeness, of connectedness, of overflowingness? We would then inevitably be always giving without condition.


I know that looking toward abundance instead of lack doesn't seem to be obvious. Our society has a deeply ingrained foundation of pointing to lack rather than abundance, pointing to separation instead of connection, pointing to insecurity instead of security, pointing to fear instead of love, pointing to the empty cup instead of the overflowing one.


But what if society was just innocently looking in the wrong direction?


What if our feeling of lack was simply a temporary illusion and our feeling of abundance was grounded in a deeper truth? It would mean that we would all need much less, and we could all give much more, and we could give without condition. We could simply love.


In my work with the homeless (and in my entire life, realIy) I continually seesaw between feelings of lack (need, protection, fear, judgment, separation, hopelessness) and feelings of abundance (peace, joy, gratitude, wonder, humour, connection) but I'm learning to look beyond the constructed fences of lack and into the natural and infinite fields of abundance... and interestingly enough, those fields of abundance never cease to be there whenever I happen to take a ---still moment--- to look.


NOTE: This came to mind when reading a recent article about giving money to the homeless. Here's the link if you are interested...



Andie 05.11.2019 04:30

Thank you once again Jonelle for your wise words. Let’s talk soon

Jonelle 06.11.2019 03:18

Was just thinking of you... yes, let's catch up soon! ❤️😊

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01.10 | 19:31

I am so glad to hear Sara! So kind of you to let me know! On the website menu to the left is also a "Procrastination" page which has some insights on the topic.

30.09 | 22:08

I found your blog post after googling "procrastination and the three principles". I'm new to this understanding and your very clear explanation helped. ☺️

13.12 | 04:29

Thank you Lars! So happy to hear from you, and glad you enjoyed the reading! I hope to continue writing and sharing whenever inspired. 😊

12.12 | 20:30

Hi Jonelle
Just stumbled across your website, love reading all your insights.
Hope you keep sharing. Thanks from Lars (all the way from Denmark